life, death and rebirth through relationships

From time-to-time, I’ll read Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditations.  This morning was one of those times.  This line stood out to me:

“True life comes only through many, many journeys of loss and regeneration wherein we gradually learn who God is for us in a very experiential way.”

It resonated with me because over the past several years, I have been unpacking how my romantic relationships with men, in particular black men, have shaped me, my understanding of God and how I relate to black men. It has been a murky & arduous process on the road to liberation. While in the weeds of it, I discovered that our most significant learnings and most profound growing pains are birthed out of the struggle to know, to see, to love, and to be with one another. To say it differently, we become who we are in relationship to others and that is a messy process.

The included digital art piece represents a few of the relational growth milestones that shaped me into who I am today.  I replaced the name of the romantic partner with the age in which we were in a situationship.

#growingpains #nuancedliving#mondaymorningwisdom#dontstopkeepgrowing #happymonday#unapologeticallyblack #blackwomanpower#blackwomanhood #unapologeticallywoman

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